Something That’s Been Found

“But sex is not the search for something that’s missing. It’s the expression of something that’s been found. It’s designed to be the overflow, the culmination of something that a man and a woman have found in each other. It’s a celebration of this living, breathing thing that’s happening between the two of them.”  - Rob Bell, Sex God

I decided long ago that I would wait for sex until marriage. People question why anyone would do that, sadly believing that sex is an introduction to a relationship, rather than a reflection of the intimacy found in that relationship. Many people have sex to try to find a great relationship, without realizing that they have it backwards.  The relationship must be fostered first.  In essence, sex is a physical bonus to the more important intangible elements that define a lasting relationship. I posted this quote because I think it is a great description of what sex is supposed to be.  Someday I’ll be able to offer my own insight from personal experience, but that’s at least …15 or 16 months away